Today, I want to give you an honest look at my reality, behind the scenes of Owl Creek, and the path I am on.
I’m doing this because I feel that before we venture any further together on this journey, I think you deserve a little more of the “why” behind the content. I certainly don’t want the connection between the content and design to be confusing or for you to feel like you’re in the wrong place.
I’m going to be super honest here: the last few months I have been annoyed and disappointed (to say the least) that I’m not getting the projects in my house completed, or in some cases even started. The two factors, which I’m sure you can guess: lack of time and extra money.
So I did what anyone in my situation would do: I got grumpy about it. I yelled at my TV when House Hunters was on and they had their stupid unrealistic expectations. I pinned pins and felt nothing but design envy. I contemplated a move to Waco, TX or downsizing to a tiny home.
I started to hate on my house.
Until I reminded myself that my mission for this year is to shift my focus towards gratitude. So what if I repainted the dining room back in October and I still haven’t touched up the baseboards and trim? We have enjoyed that dining room so much more now that it’s light and bright with an appropriately sized table for the space.
Do you think my kids care that the baseboards aren’t painted or that I still haven’t hung anything on the walls? No, they don’t. My kids love sprawling out on the floor to color and riding their little cars in there. That room has been filled with so much laughter, how can I hate on it?
As in most relationships, I had to tell my house “It’s not you, it’s me.” But in this case, I wasn’t breaking up with it. I was breaking up with my negativity towards it. It wasn’t my house’s fault that I wasn’t getting these projects done. And when I really stepped back to take a look, there had been many opportunities that I didn’t take to get that project completed.
These realizations, along with reading The Magnolia Story and Oola for Women, brought to my attention that mindset really does matter when it comes to design. If you are being negative, you are making it almost impossible to see the potential within your space or the positives that already exist inside of it.
We are not always going to have the time and budget to complete every project in our house when we want it done. That’s society nowadays though, craving that instant gratification. We have to step back and focus on what’s important but we also have to release the excuses.
Like me with the dining room, there have been plenty of times that I could’ve made that trim work my priority for an hour or so, but I chose not to. And who’s fault is that? Certainly not the house’s fault.
Working on my mindset the first 6 months of this year has really opened my eyes to the fact that design goes so far beyond the beauty of it. And while of course, the beauty is super important, enjoying the space is even more important. If you’re not living in the space, and I mean truly living in it, then WTF is the point? You might as well move into a museum where nothing can be touched or moved. How fun.
All of this inspired me when I wrote the post, The Peaceful Home. What you’re going to start seeing a lot more of will be inspired directly by the 5 principles I talk about in that post (so if you have yet to read it, now might be a good time).
I’m excited to be on this journey with you and talking about design for real life. If you have any questions, ideas, or thoughts, leave them in the comments below!